I DO, WE DO - EPISODE 37: We Re-Do Goal Setting
In this episode, we do a re-do of one of our most popular episodes. Goal Setting! We share why we set goals and how. We believe setting goals together ensures that we are always growing together rather than apart. Billy has a long history with goal setting. Ashley drank the kool-aid and together we consider setting and achieving goals one of our greatest and most important collabs.
Download a free goal setting lesson for partners at BashleyMoyer.com/goals. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com.
What We Talked About in this Episode:
Billy went through his first goal setting program when he was just four-years-old
He has continued learning about goal setting and teaching others about the subject ever since
Paul J. Meyer, the founder of the personal development industry said, “If you are not making the progress you would like to make and are capable of making, it is simply because your goals are not clearly defined.”
Goals bring out the best in us.
Ashley shares the story of Billy asking her about her goals and sharing his goals when they first met
Some companions from Billy’s past were turned off by this, but Ashley was intrigued and of course stuck around to learn more
Ashley shares more about her own personal thoughts on goal setting and how they have changed with Billy
Ashley is go with the flow, Billy is the planner
But we both enjoy setting goals.
The goal setting process begins with a Dream List
This is how we got started goal setting together and they continue adding to their list every year.
A Dream List is exactly what it sounds like. Some call it a bucket list. This is simply all the things you want to do in your life together.
Next comes creating a short list of goals - no more than 10
We do this every year as well.
We start by setting individual goals and then coming together for a date night to share the goals and work on our combined list.
Through this process especially, it is important that we fully support one another.
There are no stupid goals. This should be a real discussion.
What do we really want to accomplish together over the next year? What are the benefits of the goal? What obstacles stand in our way? What steps need to be taken to achieve it?
Set challenging goals together that are realistic
There are no unrealistic goals just some really bad target dates.
Goal setting is supposed to be uncomfortable.
Goal setting begins with an awareness of where you are right now and a desire to change your future together
Goals are a prelude to action, they are a course to take; they are an expression of your strengths; they are an exercise of your desire for becoming better together
Growing together is a choice all partners must make
Growing apart is an excuse.